What they don't tell you

[owlectomy]

Here is what they don't tell you:

It is very possible to be a writer with a full-time day job.

It is much harder to be a writer with a full-time day job, and also an adult -- to do the laundry and the grocery shopping and the cooking and the cleaning. At which point you have several choices:

-Get married. Outsource wage earning to spouse.

-Get married. Outsource adulthood to spouse.

-Work a job that pays actual money. Outsource adulthood to grocery delivery services, laundry services, restaurants, etc.

-Eat Spaghetti-Os!

I have to get a lot more frugal if I want to move to a different apartment next year. It just takes time.

Comments

Virginia Woolf was right

[laughingrat]

And of course a bunch of stuff on that list is traditionally available to males, who can outsource all that "petty" grown-up stuff to the ladies they've roped into marriage, but females who do something similar to are terrible, castrating (if straight), lazy bitches! *sigh*

Re: Virginia Woolf was right

[owlectomy]

I know a lot of women who have managed to make it work -- just because I know a lot of children's/YA writers, and the field is so dominated by women -- but they very often get there by first raising children, which is... a whole time-and-emotional-energy vortex of its own.

Re: Virginia Woolf was right

[laughingrat]

*nods* And there's more softening, these days in certain marriages, of those foolish old roles. But people have to be pretty unique, and have a pretty unique relationship, for the old patterns to not assert themselves strongly.

[writerjenn.livejournal.com]

As a writer with a day job and a spouse who does the "adulthood" stuff, we could still use yet another person ...