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My high school boyfriend posted on Facebook, "Homophobic laws, you have failed me for the last time."
This is since the Supreme Court punted on deciding any of the same-sex marriage cases that were brought up, effectively legalizing same-sex marriage in North Carolina, despite the amendment in the state constitution against it.
This is good! I tend to be of the opinion that in a perfect world things like health care and immigration would not depend on your marital status, but we're not there yet and weddings are nice. Some weddings are nice, at least. Marriages are nice things to have if you want them.
But when I see a post like that I sure do see the point that there has been too much focus on marriage equality as, like, the only relevant important thing? Because you can still be fired for reasons of sexual orientation or gender identity in most counties in North Carolina. You still can't adopt children with a same-sex partner. (We'll see if that changes now that there's marriage equality? Because they outlawed it by outlawing all second-parent adoptions to non-married couples?) Bullying on the basis of sexual orientation or gender identity is against the law in public schools but not private schools. (I was actually surprised to find out that this had passed! It happened in 2009.)
And the thing is, this guy is married to a woman, so... I get that he may have felt like he was being failed by homophobic laws, he can have an ally cookie if he wants, but having to stay in the closet to avoid getting fired is a more pressing concern for a lot of people than not being able to get married, I think, so maybe "for the last time" can wait a while.
This is since the Supreme Court punted on deciding any of the same-sex marriage cases that were brought up, effectively legalizing same-sex marriage in North Carolina, despite the amendment in the state constitution against it.
This is good! I tend to be of the opinion that in a perfect world things like health care and immigration would not depend on your marital status, but we're not there yet and weddings are nice. Some weddings are nice, at least. Marriages are nice things to have if you want them.
But when I see a post like that I sure do see the point that there has been too much focus on marriage equality as, like, the only relevant important thing? Because you can still be fired for reasons of sexual orientation or gender identity in most counties in North Carolina. You still can't adopt children with a same-sex partner. (We'll see if that changes now that there's marriage equality? Because they outlawed it by outlawing all second-parent adoptions to non-married couples?) Bullying on the basis of sexual orientation or gender identity is against the law in public schools but not private schools. (I was actually surprised to find out that this had passed! It happened in 2009.)
And the thing is, this guy is married to a woman, so... I get that he may have felt like he was being failed by homophobic laws, he can have an ally cookie if he wants, but having to stay in the closet to avoid getting fired is a more pressing concern for a lot of people than not being able to get married, I think, so maybe "for the last time" can wait a while.